Archive for Happiness skills

How to be with your feelings

How to be with your feelings

To let go of emotional eating habits, we need to deal with our feelings differently. How? This month, do this very simple thing: Let feelings arise, and acknowledge them. And doesn’t that already feel better? Me: baby screams. Feeling: Guilt that I can’t soothe her. Feeling:…

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How to cultivate pleasuretaking in your life

How to cultivate pleasuretaking in your life

Food is such an immediate pleasure. This month, let’s take the pressure off food and explore other ways to meet our desires and enjoy living 1.Paradigm-shift your pleasure. Think about how pleasure was presented to you as a child, and the rolemodels in your life….

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How to eat when you’re hungry, and stop when you’re full

How to eat when you’re hungry, and stop when you’re full

Specifically, for weight loss, here’s the intuitive eating holy grail: Eat when your hunger is at 80%. Stop when you’re 80% full, ie satisfied, but not stuffed. Let’s learn how to recognise the signs Do you ever find yourself eating in ’emergency mode’? I do…

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How to slow down your eating

How to slow down your eating

Slowing down your eating is absolutely key if you aim to lose weight and alter your eating psychology. It sounds simple, but are you really doing it yet? This month, make it your business to start learning and practising Here’s a simple list of straightforward…

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How to start an exercise habit, 3 times a week

How to start an exercise habit, 3 times a week

My critics might wonder, and laugh, at why I’ve been walking to the gym in my fitness outfit with my headphones on, only to turn tail at the electronic turnstile and walk straight back home. Well, guys, laugh you may, but I’m trying to entrench…

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How to get into a great weightloss mindset

How to get into a great weightloss mindset

“ Guilt. Shame. Self-reproach. Self-policing. Powering through. Pushing yourself. Taking failure to heart. Wishing surgery on your body parts. Believing that you will never. Rushing. Setting unrealistic goals. Just generally thinking, actually. Stop that already.  Perceptual shift is key, if you want to lose weight…

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Why do I binge eat?

Why do I binge eat?

Binge eating and dieting – or even making up restricting food rules for yourself – go hand in hand. I know. I used to do it! Here’s how it works, and how to begin to react differently.  I’m talking to you now as someone who…

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There’s only fear and love

There’s only fear and love

I gingerly admit it: this is probably the most overtly spiritual post I’ve ever written. Try it out. And join me in wondering: What IS fear? What IS love?   There’s only fear and love. That’s the theory In other words, all emotions are underpinned…

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Actions speak louder than words

Actions speak louder than words

Maybe it’s because I’m a woman*, or poetically inclined, or a dramatist, or a literature student, or a writer – but words and what people say are important to me. But what if they weren’t? What if I just couldn’t ‘hear’ people’s words? What if…

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Waiting (or ’embracing timelessness’)

Waiting (or ’embracing timelessness’)

I used to love deadlines: found them energising, and focus-giving. I’d make up all kinds of deadlines for myself and stick to them religiously. Not any more! I was thinking about this while I waited for a haircut in a place you don’t make appointments,…

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