Archive for Dealing with negative emotions

How to be with your feelings

How to be with your feelings

To let go of emotional eating habits, we need to deal with our feelings differently. How? This month, do this very simple thing: Let feelings arise, and acknowledge them. And doesn’t that already feel better? Me: baby screams. Feeling: Guilt that I can’t soothe her. Feeling:…

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How to eat when you’re hungry, and stop when you’re full

How to eat when you’re hungry, and stop when you’re full

Specifically, for weight loss, here’s the intuitive eating holy grail: Eat when your hunger is at 80%. Stop when you’re 80% full, ie satisfied, but not stuffed. Let’s learn how to recognise the signs Do you ever find yourself eating in ’emergency mode’? I do…

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Why do I binge eat?

Why do I binge eat?

Binge eating and dieting – or even making up restricting food rules for yourself – go hand in hand. I know. I used to do it! Here’s how it works, and how to begin to react differently.  I’m talking to you now as someone who…

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There’s only fear and love

There’s only fear and love

I gingerly admit it: this is probably the most overtly spiritual post I’ve ever written. Try it out. And join me in wondering: What IS fear? What IS love?   There’s only fear and love. That’s the theory In other words, all emotions are underpinned…

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Seven ways to make failure impossible

Seven ways to make failure impossible

We live by goals, targets, determination. But the trouble is, you either meet goals (success) or not (fail). And since failure is hefty, and willpower a limited resource, here’s another way to do life I’ve loved goals (I WILL draft a novel in 31 days,…

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What burnout really is

What burnout really is

What am I doing? Redesigning my site. Not much output, transition behind the scenes. It’s necessary not to relentlessly produce, but to regroup occasionally Imagine if the world went in cycles. Oh, it does. Seasons and wotnot. Wotnot. Can you tell I don’t wanna mention…

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Throw the artichoke leaf!

Throw the artichoke leaf!

When trapped in a situation I loathe, I have learned to survive, says Amélie Vrla, by following a simple rule: Do precisely what you can’t stand other people doing  Amélie Vrla writes:  I remember a book we used to read for fun, while having lunch at…

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How to start a virtuous circle

How to start a virtuous circle

And how to end a vicious circle! There’s one change I need to make for all the others to flow What a virtuous circle. Laura Eades 2014 Dear Laura, There’s one easy thing you can do that will have a profound effect on all your…

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Sarah Sheldon’s Big Deshishions: 2) Be brave, though you are afraid of everything

Sarah Sheldon’s Big Deshishions: 2) Be brave, though you are afraid of everything

Catastrophising was an early habit for Sarah Sheldon. Even her mum can’t assuage her fear of rotting fruit Sarah Sheldon writes: Safest to sleep I have an memory of a sleepover when I was seven or eight. Everyone else wanted to get up in the…

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Four formidable ways of reframing failure

Four formidable ways of reframing failure

Sometimes I get in a funk that I am not famous; that I’ve chopped and changed. Familiar? Here’s how I talk myself out of summing up too hastily I met someone the other day who’d made performances in London in the same theatre/live art circuit…

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